Thursday, April 3, 2008

Legal Separation

Legal Separation

If you are facing a legal separation, you are perhaps at a time in your life when you are seeing the death of a dream. Though a separation is not a divorce, you do know that there is a strong possibility that this will be the next step. Even if you are the one that asked for the separation, you are still mourning what was once a dream that should have lasted for the rest of your life. It’s never easy on either party.

A friend who is now in a legal separation tells me that even when you are the one asking to end things, you still have a lot to get through. However, the one who is asking to get out has already grieved the loss of the dream to some extent, while the other person has no idea. This makes legal separation hard because both spouses are in different places. This makes dealing with everything a whole lot harder. One spouse may be hoping to work things out and the other may have already given up hope. It’s hard when you aren’t in the same place in the grieving process.

A legal separation is supposed to be a means to see if you really want to let go of the marriage or if you can overcome your problems. What happens next will depend on what your problems were and of course, how the both of you feel. There is never an easy way to go about legal separation, but you know that it is something you have to do. You probably don’t want to jump straight to divorce if you feel there is even the smallest amount of hope. You want to know you did everything you could to save your marriage before you deemed it to be over for good.

If you think your marriage is in trouble, you should see lawyer about legal separation. You can find out what you options are and if this is really something you want to do. The rules and laws surrounding legal separation may vary from state to state, so it is important that you know what you are getting into and what to expect when you take that step. A lawyer can make sure that you are protected when you enter into separation, and that if you have kids that they are protected as well. When it comes to the end of the marriage that involves children, they have to be the first and most important consideration in your mind.